A child is just like an uncut diamond. Just like a diamond, it is very important to shape a child’s life in such a way, so as to let him/her grow into a wonderful person. The role of a parent in shaping the life of a child is like the role of a mould in shaping the form of a plastic liquid which later solidifies.
A child’s mind is open and flexible, filled with innocence. Little children have faith. Their hearts and minds have yet to develop prejudices and doubts. What a child learns early in life will usually influence him throughout his entire lifetime. So if we have something worthwhile to invest, the heart and mind of a child is the most productive soil and will bring the longest lasting rewards. When we reach out to a child with a positive influence, this is one of the most important things we will ever do in a lifetime.
This week’s Indispire prompt inspires us to write about the three skilful values that we would like to impart in our kids. And here is what I want to impart in my kids:-
The first value that I would like to impart in my child will be respect. This necessarily isn’t limited to people. We need to teach our kids to respect the environment and all its belongings as well. Respect the animals, the birds, the trees and not harm them in any way. Respect other people’s opinions irrespective if you like it or not. Respect other people’s talents even if it’s not a big deal. Respect food and money and not waste it. Respect something that is gifted to you. Respect other people’s careers, religion and lifestyle even if it is widely different from ours. Respect everyone around us no matter what their age, race, caste, colour, thinking is and never compare their dream and life with others.
“How would your life be different if…You stopped making negative judgmental assumptions about people you encounter? Let today be the day…You look for the good in everyone you meet and respect their journey.”
― Steve Maraboli, Life, the Truth, and Being Free
- Do what’s right, not what’s easy
As we grow big, we realise that life is hard and filled with lots of struggles. At such times, we tend to choose shortcuts to achieve our goals. For this, we may even end up doing the wrong thing which may affect us in the long run. I’ll teach my kids to take the right path no matter how many stones or thorns are filled on that path. Our generation wants everything done the easy and quick way and for this they don’t mind doing the wrong thing. We may end up harming someone else, if not ourselves, if we take the easy and wrong methods to fulfill our dreams. A dream doesn’t become reality through magic; it takes sweat, determination and hard work. It’s ok to fail. What’s important is never giving up.
“It’s hard to beat a person who never gives up.”
― Babe Ruth
I’ll teach my children to be independent and to be confident enough to face the world on their own. No one can predict what will happen to whom and when. We make our kids so dependable on us that in our absence they find it difficult to do something basic. It’s never too early to teach your child how to stand on his own two feet. Let your kids go on adventures. Trust them. In order to grow in the ways they need to grow, children have to take the lead and usually away from us. We can’t keep our children completely safe, but we can teach them to protect themselves. Away from home, it’s easier for children to learn what they hate and what they love, what makes them miserable and what makes them happy, because they are having experiences on their own.
“Give your children are the roots of responsibility and the wings of independence.”
– Denis Waitley
What 3 necessary skillful values would you impart to your kids to sustain in this world? Share them with me…